Comfort Zone

Comfort Zone

“All deliberate change first comes from denying the logic that most gives you comfort” What is Mike Dooley, the author of the quote, saying? My take is that he is reminding us that change is hard, and that we tend to take our thoughts as fact, especially when those...
“I hate myself”. Now what?

“I hate myself”. Now what?

“How do I choose love if I hate myself?”, ‘Amy’ asked me yesterday during her therapy session. I said nothing but could feel my eyes soften and water slightly. (Who does not know the feeling Amy shared?) She continued. “My stomach sticks out. I have a zit...
Got happy?

Got happy?

I was listening to a TED Radio Hour on happiness recently.  The host, Guy Raz, asked his guest, musician Pharrell Williams, to reveal the secret to happiness. Williams was perplexed. Here is what he said:  “I’m not some guy who’s walking...
Surf’s Up

Surf’s Up

Feelings are natural. Feelings are normal.Some are easier to recognize, regulate, and tolerate than others.Most of us can easily list the feelings we like, and the feelings we would rather avoid.  Who wouldn’t choose joy over anxiety? The perennial pursuit of...